When two people meet, everything they bring with them also meets.

You love each other, but something between you no longer works like it used to.

The same arguments repeat themselves over and over again.
The same trigger points.
One approaches and the other moves away.
One gets angry; the other shuts down.
Each of you feels like you're trying, and the other just doesn't see.

And maybe you already know how to talk about things, but somehow the conversation keeps coming to the same place.

The problem isn't always what's happening between you.

Sometimes it's in what happens inside each of you, the moment something in the relationship triggers it.

 

This is where the couple's work begins.

In couples coaching using the Satya method, we do not try to teach you how to "communicate correctly" or how to stop fighting.

We stop and check what's really going on.

How do I feel when my partner says what he says?
What am I telling myself at that moment?
What do I do to not feel what I feel?
How do I react when I am hurt, afraid, or feel unseen?
And what do I require from the person in front of me to feel okay?

Because in one moment of an argument, fear, anger, insult, the need for control, the desire to be understood, and a lot of automatons can come together.

And when both are busy trying to make the other change, it's hard to see what's really happening.

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The work begins with each of you.

Couple work is not a search for who is right.

It is an invitation for each of you to meet yourself within the context.

See your patterns.
Identify the places where you close down, attack, distance yourself, or try to control.
Understand what drives you.
And learn to be with yourself differently, even when the person in front of you doesn't behave the way you would like.

From there, a new possibility can arise between you.

Not a couple who don't fight.

Not a couple where everything is always harmonious.

But a couple who can stay in touch even when it's hard.

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Who is this suitable for?

This work is suitable for any two people who have a significant connection between them, and something in their encounter is no longer working as they would like.

For couples who return to the same arguments over and over again.

For a parent and child who have difficulty understanding each other.

For business partners who find themselves in the same conflicts over and over again.

For two people who work together and feel that something in their relationship is also affecting their work.

And for any relationship where there is a desire to understand what is really going on between two people, instead of continuing to try to change the person in front of me.

There doesn't have to be a crisis.

It's enough that there is something that repeats itself, triggers, distances, or creates a feeling of tension between you, and that you want to meet differently.